Personal Effectiveness Tips: What to do when people don’t support your next career move
You’re confident that you’re ready to take the next step in your career. But what do you do when the people around you, your friends, coworkers, family, and employer, don’t seem to understand or support you? That’s an enormously irritating predicament that’s regrettably not uncommon. When we desire to advance or move to a new place that fascinates us, we expect our closest friends and family would be the most supportive, but this isn’t always the case. In fact, they could be antagonistic to the concept.
They believe they are helping us by defending ourselves and playing devil’s advocate. It’s not the case. It can actually be pretty harmful. Here’s how to deal with the negative and take the necessary measures. To begin, attempt to comprehend their issues. When we feel that those who should be supportive aren’t, it’s tempting to want to strike back, but remember that some of their worries may be valid.
For example, they can be concerned that you won’t enjoy the new functional region you’re wanting to relocate to. That isn’t insane. You might not think so. They may also doubt if you have the necessary abilities to succeed in your new field. It’s a good question to ask once again.
But it’s your obligation to listen and convince them that you’ve thought about these concerns as well and aren’t making hasty decisions. Consider their concerns as a business exercise in which you picture a new effort failing ahead of time and consider why. This can help you avoid potential stumbling blocks and handle issues before they develop.
Second, you may protect yourself from the worst-case scenario by asking yourself, “What is the simplest test I can run?” Is there any possibility you might ask to undertake a three-month rotation in HR before resigning your sales career and taking a new one in HR?
That may alleviate some fears about whether it’d be a good fit. Similarly, taking some classes in your new sector may provide you with useful information while also assuring those around you that you’ve acquired the necessary abilities.
Third, even the most staunch detractors may be worn down by time and tenacity. They may believe that the career change you’re considering is purely coincidental. However, if you stay at it and persist over time, writing material about it, attending conferences and meetups, expanding your network in the area, and adjusting your job duties so that you can play in the sector more, they’ll finally give in and say, “Okay, I suppose this is for real.”
Finally, there are moments when you simply must put it down. They may believe that voicing their criticism would influence you. But if you say plainly, “I care about this, “I’m passionate about it, and I want to do it, “in fact, I need to do it, and I’d be extremely “disappointed in myself if I didn’t try,” that may often be enough to convince people that they need to jump on board. You’re progressing, and they should either become encouraging or at the very least quit being negative. It’s not about threats or ultimatums by any means, but it is important to state that this is taking place.
Longfellow said: “We are inclined to judge ourselves by what we can do, but others judge us by what we have done.” Unfortunately, there is sometimes a tremendous mismatch there, where we picture a future for ourselves that others have yet to perceive. It’s aggravating. However, with patience and effort, you can nearly always persuade them to accompany you.